50 questions that free your mind: No. 24

As part of my Day Zero Project, I will be answering the 50 Questions That Free Your Mind. For each of these, I will blog an answer and then it will be linked here as well. Some of these will have longer responses, some will be extremely short. But by the end of the Day Zero Project, I will have answered all of these.

No. 24: Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

Talk about looking at the world in a different way, eh?

This is tough because it seems like you wouldn’t lose touch with the first friend. Would they live away from you? Sure. But in this day and age, with the internet, texting, other talking apps on phones, many ways to travel etc., you’d at least keep in contact with said person.

Now, if you said a good friend moves away and you lose touch, different story.

However, it seems like the only one you are losing touch with, in this situation, is the person who lives near you. So, that would be my answer.

See, it’s tough when things like this happen because sometimes reasons aren’t known. Maybe there was a fight. Maybe life trials have just done things to make two people lose touch. Maybe it’s just a natural progression. But either way, when you have a good friend who still lives near by and you lose touch, it’s odd.

I think it would really depend on the circumstances of things, but that has to be the worse of these two choices.

Take for example said friend who still lives near you.

You know they are around. You know what kind of friend they used to be. And you know how it is now. Maybe you’ll pass one another in the store or at the gas station. Is it awkward? I would imagine so. Is there hatred? Maybe. What else could be the problem? Only you two — or maybe one of you — know.

It’s harder because of the possibility that you could run into that person. That, to me, makes it worse.

On the flip side, the good friend who moves away. If this friend moved away for good reasons — family, new job, whatever else — it’s good. You still keep in touch and when you get to meet up with said friend, however often that may be, it’s a special and fun time. That makes those moments better and exciting. And that’s a good thing.

Though it would stink to have either of these situations happen, they do happen. It’s part of life. But if posed with this question, the second option is definitely the worse of the two.